Comments on: Ghosts of things past: a male rape survivor speaks

By: Section 377 must go, but who will speak for the men raped in India? - VientianePost

Wed, 24 Jan 2018 07:12:12 +0000

[…] rape is inflicted on men just to shame them to, supposedly, insult their masculinity,” wrote an Indian male rape victim in 2013. “In whatever way it happens, it loops back to the question of […]

By: पुरुषों के ख़िलाफ़ रेप महज 'अप्राकृतिक सेक्स' क्यों? - Big News

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[…] 2013 में एक पुरुष रेप पीड़ित ने लिखा था, ”कई बार पुरुषों के साथ रेप इसलिए भी किया जाता है ताकि उसकी मर्दानगी को अपमानित किया जा सके.” यह चाहे जैसे भी हो लेकिन सवाल लैंगिक समानता का बना रहता है. यह एक मुख्य वजह है जिससे नारीवाद पर सवाल खड़ा हो रहा है. […]

By: Akshay Kumar Speaks Out About Being Abused In Childhood

Akshay Kumar Speaks Out About Being Abused In Childhood — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 14:10:19 +0000

[…] a blog post written by Vinodhan, he talks about being gang-raped twelve years ago at the age of eighteen. He […]

By: Arushi

Arushi — Sat, 01 Aug 2015 03:47:33 +0000

You are a courageous man. Please do always remember that you are nothing less than a intrepid solider.

By: Male Rape: Breaking The Silence - Newsspot.buzz

Male Rape: Breaking The Silence - Newsspot.buzz — Fri, 29 May 2015 11:34:32 +0000

[…] stories because of the deep-rooted belief that “boys don’t cry”. In fact, in a blog post that went viral on the internet, Vinodhan, a male rape-survivor, shared both these concerns. He […]

By: Jay

Jay — Thu, 07 May 2015 03:57:13 +0000

I am struggling to find the right words to respond to your article. Though I have never been in your shoes (though once I came close to it), I can empathize with you and the trauma you had to go through.

it was important that you told your story for others also to realize that it was not an isolated case if they had the same experience. For the one time, I came close to a rape, I felt ashamed of myself and felt guilty for it for a loooong time. I was 13 and was in my school and none of my teachers trust me when I narrated my tale. So I can only imagine what you have went through. This is why I think it was very important that you told it to the world. One the victims don’t feel guilty and second for the world to realise that such incidents takes place in our society.

I hope that you are able to make peace with your past and can live happily with your life.

By: Adi

Adi — Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:11:40 +0000

Thanx for sharing it with us. But it is proved that any case of rape men is the culprit. This is the reason for shame for all of us.

By: somya tandon

somya tandon — Wed, 03 Dec 2014 16:26:05 +0000

Vinodhan
I can’t empathise but I can surely tell you that this article made a difference in my way of thinking. I always thought women were victims but alas rape isn’t gender-biased.

I believe that rape should be stopped completely! I will do my effort towards the society to stop this brutal crime.

By: Nikita

Nikita — Wed, 03 Dec 2014 13:55:54 +0000

I am really moved by your story. You are really brave to share it and I love the fact that you have not victimized the whole incident. I completely agree with you. Rape is a gender crime. Being a feminist myself, I really believe that our country needs to change their mindset regarding gender and sexuality. We need to come out of our shells and accept as well as respect one’s individuality. After all we are humans first and all of us should have the freedom to live lives their way. Nobody has the right to make anyone feel ashamed of their sexuality. I feel if we are sensitive towards these issues naturally people would be more sensitive towards sexual related crimes and people would blame the criminal rather the victim. Hopefully waiting for that day when people can proudly come out of their closet, when people would stop blaming survivors,and the survivors are the ones moving freely around without taunts and judgmental remarks, when the criminals would be actually punished and not moving around freely on a bail. Hopefully.

By: Udit Baxi

Udit Baxi — Wed, 03 Dec 2014 10:57:45 +0000

I came to this link through YOUTH KI AWAZ!
You have written it very well, which says you are a person of sound conviction!
You have my condolences for suffering through like this, and also appreciation to show the bravery of coming out with your story.
And most of all (i know it might not count to much because i am only writing it down) but, you have my support in spirit if not in actual presence.
It is people like you who have face adversary, who survive the extreme situations, who are heroes in there own rights, who change the statuesque and make the world a better place by bringing a change (however large or small it may be.)
I hope these humble words of encouragement and acknowledgement will help you better in coping up with your fears and also helping people who have suffered.