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  1. You write beautifully. And it is so relateable! Especially the waxing under arm hair part. Force of habit is not always in correspondence with choice of identity. But is there a fine line? Or is it ambiguous and contradictory? Is there a possibility of the existence of a coherent distinction in the real world?
    Interestingly, even you face this confusion. But maybe that’s the point. Confusion won’t arise if you aren’t agendered. It doesn’t matter if you act like a “man”, “woman” or a “trans*”. Your choice needs to be recognised. But how will such a choice gain any recognition, leave aside legal recognition? If you don’t “behave” agendered”, society won’t consider you agendered. The irony obviously lies in the fact that the “society” as a whole is unaware of a how an “agendered” is supposed to behave. But will it change? It can, if more people raise their voice. But one can raise their voice only if they completely comprehend the situation. And that involves uncomfortable questions humans try to evade, and not confront.
    Can’t really deal with society. But I can’t make myself shun it completely because I want to change it. Nobody will pay attention to a voice who shunned it all when it became a little hard to understand. Extremely hard. But still.