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  1. Dear Major J. Suresh,
    you don’t imagine how happy I am, reading your post. As you may see on my name, I’m not an Indian but I’m involved in the same you went through since more than 1.5 years. The arbitrary decision of Indian army, not to allow their gay people to enjoy fundamental rights leads to the fact that thousands of people have to suffer – forced to decide to live a life of lie within it’s job which is so much more than just a job and also within their families as India is still focused on “when you will marry?” or “why you don’t marry?”
    I’m currently not allowed to write more details in public about why I’m writing you and what story is behind. The experiences you have written could have been written by me and my partner as well. But behind our story is something that might be interesting for you. I would be glad if u could keep in touch with me and us. Jai Hind Sir

  2. hello suresh,
    you have written a fantastic blog. the information covers almost everything an openly/closeted gay man and their families should know, besides those heterosexual men should learn about….so that ignorance does not lead to fear of the unknown.
    i am an indian, almost retired living closeted in australia. i do so not because of consequences, but because of my family. australia is one of the more liberal countries, but prejudices still exist specially among the low educated people.
    you have had a good upbringing and work experiences, especially in the army. you have a family and friends that support you. keep your head high and ignore the ignorants.
    unfortunately, the indian education system does not permit people to think for themselves or to question authority (just like the army). thus even those who have good degrees, have poor life skills to understand things not taught via text books.
    as for mr rawat, i think he is an idiot! like as i said before, education and promotions do not change a persons perspective unless they try and live/learn outside their heap of cow dung. i had good times with indian military guys and rawat was not one of them! the more exposure gays get in india, the easier it will be to get acceptance.