Coming Out Stories
Here are some coming out stories from LGBT people in India, many from the MP group associated with Orinam. As you read the essays linked below, remember that the coming out process is likely to vary tremendously depending on your age, gender, family circumstances and economic independence, environment and experiences as an immigrant, second-generation (or later) member of the diaspora, or as a resident in your country of origin
.Further, (i) for some – but not all – people who are queer/trans, non-conforming gender expression gives them away as queer/trans – they don’t have the luxury of hiding their queerness because the gender expression itself attracts hostility and violence. For such people, not being visible is not an option. (ii) While it is true that coming out helps in greater visibility and in reducing stereotypes about queer/trans people, it is not a universal solution. Self-preservation and safety should take precedence. There can be unhealthy peer pressure to come out which must be tackled.
We hope that the following accounts inspire you in your journey towards coming out to yourself and consider carefully the possibilities of coming out to others. We encourage you to send in your experiences to us. Experiences of coming out post-377 are especially welcome.
Apartment-hunting as a father of trans experience
A man of trans-experience recounts his challenges in finding a…
First Generation Queer South Asian Immigrant Rant
Coming out is not a one time thanksgiving dinner table…
Out, Proud and Liberated: Reflections of a former officer in the Indian Army
Major J. Suresh (ret’d) reflects on his coming out journey,…
[podcast] Colours of Pride: A Talk on Gender, Sex and Sexuality
Podcast of June 20, 2020 panel discussion on gender-sex-sexuality, organised…
“My mother’s smile is as warm as before and I am still my father’s Chinnu”: Alok’s coming out story
… in which Alok reveals his ultimate secret to his…
The Price I Paid for Being Myself
Dr Aqsa Shaikh reflects on what she lost when she…
Chennai: Summer of 2004
Ani recalls the summer of 2004 and his first brush…
Standing Out
We must focus on how we can be better humans:…
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It took me 27 years to admit I wasn’t straight.
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